I've come to learn that no matter what kind of relationship you're in, a relationship is a place you go to give. It's not a place where you go to "deserve", or "owe"; the latter notions mentioned are based on fear (driven by your ego mind), and not based on love (which is driven by your heart—your spirit).
If two people are in a relationship to give to one another, they would then have balanced each other's needs and wants, and given just a little more weight to one another's happiness.
In a true partnership, the kind worth striving for, the kind worth insisting on, and even, frankly, worth divorcing over, both people try to give as much, or even a little more than they get. "Deserves" is not the point. "Fair" is not the point. And "owes" is certainly not the point.
The point is to make the other person as happy as we can because their happiness adds to ours. The point is, in the right hands, everything that you give, you get. If both partners are in it to give to the other, then somehow life's inevitable challenges can become a much smoother, healthier, happier ride.
As we go into the weekend, let's be reminded to not only "give" during "special occasions", but to give all year... everyday. It doesn't have to be materialistic. A priceless gift of acknowledgment, understanding, compassion, even a smile, a hug... doesn't matter what it is or how you do it just as long as your intentions are truly to make the other person's day a little brighter without expecting anything in return.
This unconditional way of being is the thing that makes you rich! Makes you and others feel alive, nurtured and empowered like nothing else in this world can.