Forgiving does not mean you have to agree to something you don't believe in; it just means you're willing to let go the old and move forward to a new.
If you and someone are on a different page at this time, allow each other the free will to choose and the lessons that follow. Let the other learn from their choices and evolve at their own pace. Don't try to control it—it is not up to you to decide the pace at which the other person evolves. What is up to you, however, are your deliberate choices to better your own being.
Bear in mind that when you hold a grudge, you are in essence holding on to all the negative feelings that come with it. These toxic feelings are yours—not someone else's; they belong to you because you are the one holding on to the grudge. To achieve true wellness, you must first let go of this toxicity by letting go of the grudge. Forgive.
And no, you do not have to be a part of something you don't agree with in order to forgive. You can move on, turn a different page, find something that serves you better, while also having forgiveness in your heart. So forgive and forget-the-grudge, however, always remember the lesson!
We do not attract what we want; we attract what we are. Consequently, the universe offers us experiences that match our giving, supportive nature or lack of it. The way you pay attention to the world can make a huge difference in the way you experience it. So if you really want to see change for the better, you must first be the change you are seeking.
Be aware of where you focus most of your attention. Remember: You are the product of your thoughts; loving thoughts make you kind, miserable thoughts make you a downer, joyful thoughts make you spread more light. So how do you spend most of your thoughts?
This coming 2013, do yourself a favour—give the gift of Forgiveness. Start by forgiving yourself... And if there's someone you're contemplating on forgiving, this is the time to do so. You deserve to nourish your spirit with this empowering choice. Do not settle for anything less!
Here's wishing you more ABUNDANCE in love, health and prosperity for the new year! :) xo