Are you in a relationship where deep down you know the person you’re with is not the best person for you? Perhaps they don’t communicate considerately – especially when things don’t go their way. Maybe they’re just too set in their ways and have that “it’s my way or no way” mentality. In referring to my last post, you know that without proper communication, nothing good can last. Sooner or later it will end…
Maybe they show you affection, but only when needed. They say “Love you, too” way more often than “I love you.” Perhaps they can’t fully respect and appreciate everything about you because of their own insecurities (to which they may not realize or want to admit).
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With this said, you just know you’re both not on the same relationship level. You know the best thing for you is to leave the relationship, but why is what’s best for you so hard to do?
I know you’ve had some great times with this person regardless of your differences. Remembering these good times and hoping for more is what’s keeping you in the relationship – which doesn’t help the situation.
But think about this: Despite the good times, with all the other issues surfacing, is it worth it? Maybe it’s worth the fun and experience for the first year or so. But can you see a mature, healthy relationship with this person in the long term? If so, great! Continue on. But if not, maybe you need to reconsider.
Saying this however, if you must stay a little longer because you feel you’ve already invested more time and emotion than you had anticipated, then put a time frame on it. Continue to be kind, loving and committed to the relationship, but give yourself a deadline. Maybe you can say: “I’ll do my best with this person for another month or so, but I must see satisfying progress or better. And if I don’t, then at least I know I did my best and I can now leave the relationship with no regrets.”